Too many times when we talk about our fertility we reduce ourselves to pieces and parts. What's more, we blame our body parts for not working right. For some it's not enough eggs, a uterus that isn't cooperating, or a cycle that's unregulated. When you are frustrated it can feel as though your body is working against you, sabotaging your dream of becoming a mother.
I understand how easy it is to get caught up in this mindset of both blaming your body and simplifying your fertility issues. After all, not everyone is lucky enough to have a diagnosis for their fertility struggles. You may have been wondering for some time or gone through a barage of tests to finally get some answers. After everything you've been through, it's nice to have something specific to blame for your difficulties conceiving.
As convenient as it may be to blame pieces and parts of your body for your fertility struggles, I invite you to shift your focus to a wider view. Your reproductive outcomes are influenced by more than just your reproductive organs. A balanced fertility is a result of multiple bodily processes, which are influenced by innumerable outside influences. Optimal fertility is a result of optimal health. When you limit your scope to just your reproductive system or just your reproductive organs, you are eaving out big picture issues that have a big impact on your fertility.
Of course I don't mean to throw away diagnoses or test results that pinpoint your specific issues. Rather, you should use these diagnoses as signs pointing you in the right direction towards healing your whole self. Your bodily systems are all connected. If your reproductive system is not functioning well, your body is telling you that something is off balance, something is not right. When you address the underlying issues affecting your fertility you improve your quality of life. Balancing your overall health will benefit you long beyond your reproductive years.
Your overall health, genetic makeup, reproductive history, family history, and lifestyle greatly influence your fertility. While you can't control your history, you can make lifestyle choices that have a positive effect on your future. For example, PCOS is one of the most common fertilty issues that affect women. The underlying issue of PCOS is not the cysts themselves, but the hormone imbalance that causes them to proliferate. While there is a genetic component involved, managing your diet can greatly improve the symptoms of PCOS. Managing insulin levels by eating less simple sugars, balancing carbohydrates and proteins, and eating regularly improve symptoms of PCOS like irregular hair growth, headaches and sleep patterns. Managing your insulin will also have a positive effect on your metabolism, moods, energy levels, and more. This is an example of how your fertility is linked to your overall health.
You may already know the connections between nutrition and fertility, but were you aware of other factors? Other lifestyle factors such as your emotional state, sleep patterns, exposure to toxins, menstrual hygiene products, and coping mechanisms have a big impact on your fertility as well.
Have you considered any of these topics when examining your fertility issues?
history of sexual trauma
history of generational/collective trauma
history of mental/emotional/physical trauma
history of birth control use
history of eating disorders
depression, anxiety, PTSD or other mental health issues
the longterm effects of racism / sexism / homophobia / etc.
irregular sleep patterns
irregular eating patterns
consumption of sugar/transfats/processed foods
overall diet - what it's missing and what it has in excess
quality of vitamins and supplements
the toxicity of your menstrual hygiene products
the toxicity of your makeup/bodycare/cleaning products
the effects of your prescription/ OTC medications
quality and quantity of water you drink
gut health / antibiotic use
history of vaccinations, especially gardasil
exercise- too much, too little, what type
stress levels at work
overuse of technology
family pressures and expectations to become a mother
frustration within relationships
self-love and self-care practices
exposure to environmental toxins
fear of failure
overwhelm / lack of down time
relationship with partner
family's reproductive history
This list is only a small sample of all the ways your lifestyle and history can affect your fertility. I hope you will take the time to reconsider the way you perceive your fertility. Understand firstly that your body is not the enemy. Next, look into the ways your fertility is connected to other aspects of your life, and see where you can make adjustments to find balance.
If you are looking to balance your fertility hollistically, but need help developing a plan that will work for you and sticking to it, schedule a call with me. I would love to help you get pregnant.
Queen Bee Fertility